13 year old gay boy needs an answer

I'm a gay 13 year old, and theres this guy that I really like. I just met him 2 weeks ago, but from when I first met him, I had a major crush on him. He's sweet, funny, interesting, and super cute. I just love being around him, and when he smiles at me, I get butterflies in my stomach. In a good way. The thing is, I'm not sure if he's gay. We both like theater, and he always likes talking to me more than other people. We have a ton of jokes, and he smiles at me and he always fixes his hair in the cutest way. I'm not sure if he's flirting or if he's just a sweet guy. What should I do?

Possible answers:

I was pretty much in the same boat and there were no clues, except I had know n him all year and was in his class the previous year. I suggest not to act on anything as you really have no idea and he may take offense to it or whatever. So, I told my friend I was gay, and I figured if he was too, then he would tell me, and that he would act on that but nothing ever happened. 

I think you should try to hang out with him more, outside of school possibly, where you both can be alone together but otherwise and most importantly, get to know him better as a person, and a friend, regardless of what his sexuality might be, these things take time.

I think that you should take things slow, since you aren't sure what his reaction to this will be because you aren't sure if he is gay or not.

You can start out by becoming his friend. You have the common interest of theater, which is really great and something you can start with. From there you can get to know him even more and find out some of his other interests and what he likes and dislikes, and he can do the same about you. Then the two of you will be able to trust each other more and you will be able to tell him that you are gay. Maybe telling him will allow him to feel comfortable down the line with telling you that he is gay, IF he is. If he is straight, then the two of you will be able to stay friends at least, which is great.

So basically, hang out a bit outside of school and just get to know each other a bit more, and take things slowly. Build up a friendship and when you are both comfortable with each other, go from there.


  1. Maybe you should bring up a topic regarding a Gay issue. Like what do you think about George Michael's death, or do you think the GBLT or whatever it is a good idea in our schools?

  2. Hey, I would just talk about something about theater and some actors who are gay (like Neil Patrick Harris) and just talk about everyday things (school subject, sports) and maybe ask if he likes a girl in class...

  3. Just take your time.

  4. I agree. Take your time. You don't want to get hurt.


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